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The Upside of Stress

You're all stressed out? That's great news!!

It is quite a normal reaction if you’re surprised about what the title above suggests. We have been bombarded over the years with messages that "stress" is our enemy. Today, I have some "breaking news" for you - some "great" news. Stress has its upside. There’s an emerging trend in scientific research that explores how you can befriend your stress and use it to your advantage. Stress is not the real problem. The way you handle it, or think about it, as I will shortly expose, is the problem. Whether you’re an employee, manager, or have any other life role, in our current fast-paced times, overwhelm is common and can dominate our lives. What you’re about to read can be life changing. Use it to your advantage. Share it with your friends and fellow colleagues. Apply it as your new way of living; and allow the same effects to rub on those you interact with.
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The Power Of Self-Talk 1

I lately finished reading a book entitled "The Power of Your Subconscious Mind" by Dr. J. Murphy. Not only did I enjoy the read, I was reminded by the power of positive self-talk. This easy to use tool can be used by people as they set their minds into achieving certain goals. In a nut shell, the author suggests that you empower yourself most when you repeatedly affirm to yourself that you are going to succeed on a specific task. Affirmations are declarations that something is already true (mainly a positive outcome). When repeatedly practiced, these become like a prayer and direct your subconscious energy towards that which you aspire.

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The Power Of Self-Talk 2

As you read these lines, don’t you hear your own voice in a whisper like tone echoing behind your eyeballs? Most probably you do; and it is not deliberate. You’re always engaged in self-talk and despite this being a characteristic of your mental chatter, you seldom monitor it or pay attention to. This is the way you think. That voice creates your inner idiosyncratic world; so private no one knows what’s going on in there.

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Digging Deep Within for More Self-knowledge

Well, another academic semester has unfolded; and I can’t but reflect on my students who enrolled for the introduction to psychology course. For the past four months, we have examined the thinking processes and the motivating roots for human behavior. I am wondering how many students are now more invested in selfdiscovery and regulation? I planted seeds beyond course material and nourished these from time to time. Many resisted and their reactions ranged from having flat expressions on their faces to openly being sarcastic about my daring "calls". Things seemed just too airy-fairy for their understanding. Others were more welcoming and those really motivated me to keep trying. I can’t know how many were responsive for sure, but I’m happy with just a few. Generally speaking, people differ in their willingness to "dig deep" and become more selfaware. And that is even more customary among the younger generation

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Waiting Out The Storm

To fight the storm may not be "To fight the storm may not be orm may not be the wisest decision and by no the wisest decision and by no the wisest decision and by no means is it surrender when you wait it out" so I told mys is it surrender when you wait it out" elf just recently. That’s how I self-pacified as I found myself battling external forces beyond my control. You see, I am a "big picture" person who’s also a fan of goal setting. I get to achieve a lot by designing baby steps to reach my final objectives. I had earlier formulated some plans to grow professionally during the summer. Lo and behold, those plans were consistently obstructed; thus, got detoured. I was thrown off balance as I found myself drowning in arranging outings for the kids, meeting up with friends who came to visit from abroad, and getting involved in numerous other social obligations that usually intensify during the season. There I was involved in the plans of others; not my own. I was fighting and resisting just keeping up with meeting my own deadlines. It felt as if I was struggling in a storm of opposing forces pushing and pulling me astray. The fight drained all my energy; thus, leading me to
feel entirely frustrated.

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The A to Zs of Excellence

Ever wondered about the mindset of happy and successful people who achieve "excellence"? Well, I often have. And examining these people, I found that they make the best of their being; and adopt some simple, yet, powerful strategies to be "outstanding". They are brain-washed with a certain set of beliefs, attitudes, and thoughts when it comes to dealing with themselves, others, and their life challenges. These, eventually reflect in their best achievements.

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Dealing With Fear After Being Promoted

A dear friend of mine recently got promoted to the position of the CEO of this reputable huge firm. I met with her just yesterday to discuss the great news only to find out that she was terrified by the news. Shock waves of worry were still coloring her perception of her pinnacle professional life. Instead of being a chest-thumping Tarzan, she seemed cornered like a pray. I found her gritting her teeth mulling about the tantalized situation that firm was in. She thought that the prospects of enacting a directional shift towards growth were poor as demonstrated by the successive CEOs handling that same post. I saw things differently; and started dissecting with her the different aspects of her worries. She was disempowering herself with negative thoughts and bleak attributes of the situation; and that needed to change. She can’t decline such an opportunity and has all the right to worry, but whining about the problems surrounding her added responsibility did not serve her much. We first changed the term "problems" into "concerns". We then started focusing on how to dissolve or solve those concerns. She had already begun that, and as we sat there more solutions surfaced.

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Dealing with Emotional Trauma by Tearing Out Pages from Your Life Book

During my recent hypnotherapy practicum, one particular tool (more like a metaphor) drew my attention. It was in line with my future book project on "Coping with Realities". The tool was an aid to deal with past painful emotions or memories. If not properly dealt with, these become heavy baggage with a grave negative impact on one’s personality, emotions, and behavior. The general gist of such a hypnotic exercise is to bring awareness that whatever already passed is past; and cannot be changed. What we can certainly change is what we can do now. The exercise works best if you are a visual person and have the ability to imagine taking a trip through your mind’s eye into the unconscious mind. A hypnotist can guide you through, but you can also do it alone. It goes something like this:
Take some time to relax a bit, relax, yes, breath, relax, more and more…..

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Dealing With Hypocrites

You are, indeed, blessed when life hands you the right kind of supportive people who get you all enlightened, validated, or nourished. But, like it or not, you may bump repeatedly with mere hypocrites. If you’re the tough-minded type, you wouldn’t easily let them off the hook. You may openly defy their emotional blackmail and confront them with the truths you observe. But what happens if you’re the overly sensitive type. You abide by societal etiquettes that require you to continually swallow your observations? Your personal standards dictate gentle interpersonal dealings. You’d tell yourself: "let others discover the hypocrisy just as I did" (maybe let them quell the lies for you). But then what? It just irritates you that you have to keep tolerating the deceit. Hypocrites have been preying on my mind lately; and I am having difficulty dealing with them. I am just saddened by the idea of being lied to. I might as well write about it to gain some clarity. Maybe in the process I get to reduce their harrowing effects.

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Make The Time For This & That

How often do you hear people saying "I don’t have the time to do this or that…". If we scrutinize the idea of lacking the time, more often than not, it’s just tossing around an excuse to escape doing something. In reality, we are not MOTIVATED enough to make the time for it. We inadvertently scan the significance of our actions as we decide if something is worth attending to, or not. What’s the alternative? How important is it? Is it a priority? Is it my sole responsibility? What’s the yield for me? Can someone else do this instead? We are in a race against time and it’s enough that much of it gets devoured by external forces. We are taunted and goaded into action by duties and obligations, so we’d rather be very selective in spending whatever time is left for us (rightly so); thus, relegate many things to the periphery of "no time to deal with it. The main concern arises when we succumb to habitual patterns.

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